I have lived many, many lives.





















Theatre maker. Director. Actor. Dancer. Teacher. Cancer patient who refused to be defined by it. Researcher. And for the past fifteen years, someone who helps women find their way back to themselves.

That's not so much a career path, more an education in being human.

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The women who find me usually say some version of the same thing:

"My life is a mess! I am at my wits end. I have tried everything. You are my last resort."

I hear that and I think "ok lovely,  let's go make some changes happen".

Those same women who find me are not mildly inconvenienced by anxiety. They are utterly exhausted by it, have been carrying it so long they've forgotten what it feels like not to, are frightened and fed up and have almost — almost — stopped believing anything can change.

Something always can.

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I trained in theatre at Dartington College of Arts, that extraordinary place where art and life were never separate things. I spent years making work, directing, performing, teaching young people to find their voice and trust their bodies. I learned, in the most physical and practical way possible, that human beings carry our whole selves layered in body and mind. Our stories, our fears, our histories. Long before we can name them.

That knowledge lives in me still. It shapes everything I do.

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In 2011 I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer.

I want to be clear about how I met that diagnosis: I fought it. Two surgeries, months of chemotherapy, and a absolute refusal to be diminished by it. The physical healing came.

What nobody tells you is that the emotional aftermath arrives later, quietly, and is its own battle entirely. Anxiety, intrusive thoughts, the body remembering what the mind is trying to move beyond.

My doctor said something I've never forgotten: "You've dealt with the physical healing. Now it's time for the emotional healing."

In 2015 I discovered The CONTROL System. I was sceptical, I am not someone who takes things on faith easily. But within hours, reactions that had controlled me for years were simply gone. Not managed. Not coped with. Just gone.

I knew immediately that I had to learn this so I could help others.

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What I bring to this work is not just technique, though the techniques are powerful and I am very, very good at this.

It's the many, many lives.

The theatre maker who understands that layering of story and memory in body and mind. The dancer who knows that we are not separate from our physical selves. The cancer patient who chose to fight. The researcher with an MSc in Psychology. The woman who has sat with her own turmoil and come out the other side knowing exactly what that particular darkness feels like from the inside.

When you sit with me, online, in your own space, completely safe, you are not sitting with someone who has read about anxiety, panic, depression and trauma.

You are sitting with someone who knows.

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I work online, which means I can work with you wherever you are in the world. Sessions are gentle, focused, and, this surprises people, often enjoyable.

Our first conversation is always free. An hour, no obligation, just a chance to talk and for you to feel whether this is right for you.

If you are at your wits end... 

If you have tried everything... 

If some part of you is still looking, still hoping, still not quite ready to give up... 

Then I think you may have found the right place.

I can help you lovely. Actually, I'd love to.

Nicola